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How to Be a Collector of the Most Amazing Things, Without Being Considered a Hoarder

How to Be a Collector of the Most Amazing Things, Without Being Considered a Hoarder

Most of us have had some sort of collection we held dear at some point in our lives…

For example, when I was in 4th grade, I had a rock collection…

Having a collection is great. We get excited about finding new treasures to add to it and we like showing them off. But what if I told you there is something way more exciting to collect than what you are currently collecting. What if I told you this “something” is timeless, priceless, and you will cherish it forever. Would you ditch your current collection?

Personally, it might be difficult for me to let go of my rocks…

But if you are willing, all you have to do to obtain this collection is put your devices down, make more time in your day, and put out just the slightest bit of effort. If you do all three of these things, you can begin collecting….drum roll please…

MOMENTS and MEMORIES!

I’m sure you all are currently living in your own moments and creating beautiful memories as we speak. But I believe we are taking less time to do these things, and more time getting busy and making excuses. It’s so easy to skip the little things and get stuck in a rut of a rushed routine filled with chaos. It can almost feel like your living each day over and over again ….

Or that your running around in circles with no end in sight….

So, STOP! Just STOP! Take a deep breath, and ask yourself what you want out of your day.

Do you want to be on time no matter what? Have the cleanest house? Finish that entire series in less than 24 hours? Or do you want to make lasting memories that you can’t stop reminiscing and smiling about. Because isn’t smiling your favorite?

Do you want to take time to be in the moment and really feel something incredible? If you chose the first option, that’s ok. But just know that if you’re always on time that’s great, but you may miss something more important by focusing on that perfect punctuality. Know that your house will once again get dirty, and you’ll just have to keep cleaning it over, and over, and over again…

Also know that when you’ve completed that series in one day, you’ll feel disappointed and yearning for more. So be late every once in a while, let the dishes stay in the sink for a little longer, and watch your show like a normal person once a week you god damn coach potato…

Because life is short my friends, and you don’t want to be sitting alone one day wondering where all your time went and wishing for it back.

And it’s so simple! Don’t put too much pressure on yourself to have the best moments or memories ever. Kelly Clarkson is the only one who can have a “moment like this…”

And please don’t confuse collecting memories or being in the moment with having to spend a bunch of money going places or buying stuff. Don’t think that you have to spend countless hours trying to be creative with your time, trying to impress those you want to make memories with, or over thinking this concept…

This should be easy, enjoyable, and exciting!

Side note, this blog is brought to you by the letter E…

Let’s start out with some simple ways to “collect” more memories and really “be” in the moment.

I am a firm believer in celebrating the little things. You learned how to burp your ABC’s? High Five! You got an A on your weekly spelling test? LET’S FRAME IT! Your cat turned 3? LET’S PARTY MITTENS! You came up with a great idea at your sales meeting? HAPPY DANCE!

You see what I’m getting at here? Taking the time to recognize small victories and turning them into a big deal can be amazing! It’s also an easy way to create fun memories! Celebrating these small victories may even lead to fun traditions which…you guessed it…can make even more lasting memories!

(Insert aww moment here)

Another way to make sure you are really getting the most out of life is holding these moments and memories priority over stuff. It’s simple, memories/moments>things. A few of my friends opt to have a family vacation rather than a room full of Christmas gifts, and I think it is amazing! I plan to try this with my own kids, and I’m sure they will hold dear the memory of the time spent having fun with family, versus the 5,000 Shopkins and Legos that I’ll end up stepping on and punishing them for later…

Listen, the hot new toys last a hot second! But the memories of a family vacation or trip will last a life time.

And again, it doesn’t need to be over the top…so hold your horses Sparky…

It’s pretty simple, being present is far more precious than giving presents. I’m sure my daughter would love if I gave her the LOL doll she begged for at the store, but do you know what she will love more? When it’s 9:30 at night and she says “Mom, can you please lay with me?” and I say without hesitation, “Yes.” As I said before, in life there will be gifts and times that we will be busy, but it’s about creating a balance and being conscious of where we are really spending our time.

Balancing time can be easier said than done, this I know. So how do we make the room? Just the other day, I watched a Ted Talk by Emily Esfahani titled, “There’s More to Life Than Being Happy.”And within this talk, she discussed the idea of time being elastic, and that it can stretch to accommodate what we allow. This goes back to that whole priority thing, right? A lot of the times when we think we are just too tired to do something, we probably aren’t…

If you were in school and needed an A on your test to pass a class, I’m sure you would stay up all night and study right? Try to implement this same mentality with your time spent with family and friends. That’s time being elastic my friends! STRETCH.IT.OUT. Which brings me to my next point, check out Ted Talks! They are usually no more than 10-15 minutes each and they are insanley eye opening! Have a moment to yourself and want your mind blown? Then check them out!

I’m not saying look at it like a job either, but push yourself just a litttttttle bit and you’ll be surprised how much you can do. Trust me, I pushed out two humans…

A little bit of effort goes a long way! Don’t believe me? Ask the dishes…

For example, sometimes after a long day I just feel like laying like a slob on the couch  with my dirty grey sweat pants a glass ora box of wine and the t.v. But then my husband suggests sitting outside by the fire and listening to music. At first, I don’t want to move from my vegetated Cheeto crusted state. But when I opt to give it a try, 99% of the time I am so glad I did…

The bottom line here is to try to prioritize moments and memories over stuff, cut out the meaningless distractions and BE in the moment! I am no expert at this, I’ve just learned through many a life experience that it can be too easy to miss out on all these amazing things by being too focused on what doesn’t matter. Challenge yourself today by making the time, getting your routine out of it’s comfort zone, and you may just create an amazing memory or add a few amazing moments to your collection Ariel…

You don’t have to chuck your rock, stamp, comic book, or wine collection (especially not your wine collection), just make ROOM for collecting what will really gives your life meaning …precious memories and unforgettable moments.

Don’t wait a lifetime, start now!

What’s the Worst That Could Happen?

What’s the Worst That Could Happen?

What’s the worst that could happen when a fat guy puts on a little coat?

Most of us have heard of the many rules to live by; “Stop and smell the roses”, “You only live once”, “Don’t eat yellow snow”,etc etc. But I’ve found through my own life experience that asking yourself “What’s the worst that could happen” has been one of the most useful of them all. Obviously there are limitations to this depending on your lifestyle, but really let those words sink in…

What is the worst that could happen?

If it ends in …”jail time” or “death” then maybe skip that goal…

Really think about using this phrase in your everyday life.

Want a promotion? Hurdle out of your cubicle and just ASK. What’s the worst that could happen? Your boss says no? Then work harder, prove yourself and try again! I know this is easier said than done, but most of the time, isn’t the fear we have growing inside us made up scenarios of what could go wrong? The point of asking yourself “What’s the worst that could happen?” is not to go to imagination station and scare yourself out of your dreams and goals! It’s to allow you to see that realistically, the outcome isn’t going to be the end of the world! So cut out all the make believe Barney…

All that negative make believe is destroying our chance at happiness.

Trust me, I’ve been there. Imagination is an amazing tool, but when you use it to be your own worst enemy, it can be dangerous.

I mean, does anyone remember the movie “It”?

 But don’t think because you are feeling fearful you are in a bad place, because more often than not, fear can be a positive thing! This fear you have when thinking about your goal means you are about to cannon ball out of your comfort zone, it also means that you are planning to act on something that is important to you! So make fear your friend 🙂

Just make sure that you aren’t letting the fear control your life …

Use the fear in addition to your burning passion to keep on trucking! But at the same time, keep in mind that there is a possibility that it may not go 100% your way and leave room to learn. If you get the dreaded “No”, find out why! When you find out why, come at the situation with a new approach and you may be surprised. The more you use this method, the more you are going to WOW yourself with what you are capable of.

But how will you know what you are capable of if you don’t try?

I’m sure we have all heard the quote from Lucille Ball, “I’d rather regret the things I’ve done than regret the things I haven’t done.” Reading a quote such as this and living by it are completely different things. In my opinion, regret is a harder pill to swallow than a moment of disappointment. You could have a negative outcome nine times out of ten, but would’t you feel better knowing you put yourself out there?

This is one of the most difficult concepts to grasp. For example, it takes a ton of courage to ask someone out on a date. If that person says no, it is one of the shittiest feelings on the planet (trust me, I’ve been there). Immediately following that rejection, it’s damn near impossible to feel good about putting yourself out there again. The first thing that comes to mind is “What is wrong with me?” As much as you prepare yourself for the possibility of disappointment, it can still feel like a punch in the face…

Let yourself feel and cry it out, eat your feelings, bitch to your friend, order a martini (even if you think they are gross but know their strength will just do the trick). Know that maybe it just wasn’t meant to be, bad timing, or that you are better off. The more you sulk in the feeling, the less likely you are to put yourself out there again. Please NEVER let anyone take away your courage.

No matter how bad it hurts, know that you’re BADASS for having the guts to try!!

Speaking of badass, I recently watched a Ted Talk by Tim Ferriss titled, “Why You Should Define Your Fears Instead of Your Goals” and it was INSANELY eye opening. If you’re never going to check out the talk, just peep this quote by Seneca the Younger, “We suffer more often in imagination than we do in reality.” HO-LY SHIT! How spot on! This is a bad habit of mine that I am working on. Often times when I have a free moment to myself; the shower, in the car, basically any time I am kid free, I tend to imagine negative scenarios of specific life circumstances. Listen, I preach thinking positively and everyday I make a conscious effort to do so, but I’m human, these negative thoughts happen…

For example, instead of taking that precious free time to imagine winning a free trip to Disney by sharing that Facebook post, this is what plays in my head instead…

This is what was explained by Tim Ferriss as “The Premeditation of Evils”, and this philosophy is as old as your mom…err… I mean …this is some seriously ancient stuff. All this premeditation, negative imagination, and playing out worst case scenarios, is preventing us from taking action for a more fulfilling and Happy life. You may be saying to yourself right about now, “Jess, you’re really contradicting yourself” and I would see your point. I am preaching to tell yourself what’s the worst that could happen, and I am praising Tim Ferriss for saying that playing out these worst case scenarios can be harmful. But, before you think I’m losing it, continue to the next paragraph….

Saying to yourself, “What’s the worst that could happen” and constantly living in fear of worst case scenarios are two drastically different ways of life. Playing out a worst case scenario can actually ease your anxiety of taking action. Going back to Tim’s Ted Talk (Holy alliteration Batman!) he explained in detail a pretty amazing plan of action for those who are of the chronic worrier population. This plan is called, “Fear Setting” and in a nutshell, you write down your worst case scenario, how you could prevent it, and a repair plan just in case it does occur. For further explanation, check out Tim’s Ted Talk…

“Hard choices, easy life. Easy choices, hard life.”

I’l leave you with that thought provoking quote by Jerzey Gregorek. When we think about the worst case scenario we can either get scared and shy away or we can look at it as a challenge. I have been living by “What’s the worst that could happen?” for quite some time now, but after educating myself through others experiences I am looking at it in a whole new light. Not only am I going to diminish the fear by saying “What’s the worst that could happen?”, but now I am going to take an extra step. I’m going to make the difficult decisions, bite the bullet, and know that my hard choice will leave me with a more beneficial outcome than the easy way out.

So I encourage you to make good choices, think of the worst possible scenarios from those choices, not to be too terrified by them, and go ahead and snap necks and cash checks!

And know that your worst case scenario couldn’t be much worse than this…

 

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